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[livejournal.com profile] thinkpositive30: day 15

posted by [personal profile] stellaluna at 09:38pm on 21/02/2010 under
I am now at the halfway point of [livejournal.com profile] thinkpositive30!

I think the effort is working out well so far; I started this because I wanted to have a focus on the positive things in my life, rather than dwelling on the negative, in particular because a few frustrating experiences had brought home to me recently how draining and upsetting it is to deal with people who are focused on the negative.

The biggest danger of dealing with people like this, I think, is buying into their negativity, unconsciously or otherwise, and allowing it to affect your own outlook. That was the last thing I wanted. And like I've said before, I'm not perfect by any means, but I truly do believe in the value of putting out kindness into the world and striving for a better outlook. We all have our genuine sorrows and troubles, but I also think those are distinctly different from negativity. Someone who's grieving, someone who's struggling with illness or a difficult family situation -- that isn't someone who's negative.

A person who sees little good in anyone or anything, who always has something bad to say, who responds to interactions with hostility or rudeness -- that's the kind of person and attitude I'm talking about here. That's the kind of thing I want to avoid. That's my blueprint for who I don't want to be.

Not every day in my life is sunshine and rainbows. Some of these entries have been a struggle to find something to write about, not because the day was bad or anything, but simply because it was an average day in which not much happened. That's part of the challenge, I guess, to find the good in the ordinary, in day-to-day life. That's an outlook I need to keep striving to make a part of my everyday outlook.
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posted by [identity profile] macslady.livejournal.com at 02:48pm on 23/02/2010
I think that's a really good outlook to have. Most of the time, I think, as you say, life isn't rainbows and sunshine, but I agree that most days there is something good you can find - even if it's just that there's one of your favourite tv shows on, or you're reading a good book, or you have a relatively nice/easy day at work. I've started listing 'good things' in my LJ too, and it helps a lot. I also agree there's a definite difference between negative people, and people who are suffering something bad, and are going through difficult times. There's a difference between being sad, or grieving, or just feeling down, than being negative. The problem with negative people is that if you're not careful, you can become sucked down into their negativity, and that ruins your outlook on the world. I also believe that some negative people seem to enjoy being negative, they revel in it, and that can be dangerous too.
Like you, I don't want to be a person who is negative all the time, or always hostile and rude, because as far as I can see, a) it doesn't get you anywhere, and b) there's always going to be someone in the world who's genuinely suffering, and thus indulging in a deliberately negative outlook is kind of selfish. I think it's possible to find positive, hapy making things in everyday life without being all happy clappy, self-help-booky about it, and your posts over the last few days are proof of that.

Congrats on day 15 of positive thinking!

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